It's funny how when you really start focusing on positive things, not only does life become a little easier and happier, but you really start to listen and take note how others think and speak...I have noticed that some people are very rigid and judgemental of anything they wouldn't do themselves, some are constantly talking about how bad things are, others are whining about their lives constantly, and others are being victims.
Now, I'm not perfect (by any means!), but I'm grateful for what I have, I try and remember to take responsibility for my life, and yes, when things get rough, it's hard not to get into that "poor me" mindset.
But at the end of the day, positivity attracts more positivity into your life.
The mind doesn't realise that those big dreams of yours aren't real, so go ahead and daydream that you are successful, happy, and driving around in a cute, red convertible (if that's what you want - it's what I want!).
Let it make you happy and have fun with it.
Be mindful of your thoughts and words for just one day and see if it doesn't make a difference...
Here's a question.
Is it possible for an ordinary person like you or I (well we are all extraordinary...) to change ourselves. To invent a whole new life?
Almost like Madonna, or Britney.
But without the resources.
And in a more in-depth way, not just a physical transformation, but an emotional one. A new life, one that has been given a lot of thought and most likely a super-human amount of effort too.
Does it require massive changes? Such as moving to a different state or even country? Or can you do it at home?
Will your friends and family accept it, or will they insist you stay in your pigeon hole, because that is where they are comfortable to have you.
And are all these thoughts because, once again I am bored with my life? Lol...
Is it possible for an ordinary person like you or I (well we are all extraordinary...) to change ourselves. To invent a whole new life?
Almost like Madonna, or Britney.
But without the resources.
And in a more in-depth way, not just a physical transformation, but an emotional one. A new life, one that has been given a lot of thought and most likely a super-human amount of effort too.
Does it require massive changes? Such as moving to a different state or even country? Or can you do it at home?
Will your friends and family accept it, or will they insist you stay in your pigeon hole, because that is where they are comfortable to have you.
And are all these thoughts because, once again I am bored with my life? Lol...
I find it interesting that one small occurence in a person's life can sometimes have a profound effect on the rest of their life, on their actions, on their thoughts.
That something tiny and seemingly insignificant can set you free, within yourself.
It's an incredible thing, to feel free, and not something that everyone experiences within their lifetime.
It is a state of mind, rather than a physical thing. It is a feeling of relief, of a weight being lifted. It's light as a feather...
It is a feeling that you can do anything you want. Be anyone you want, and the whole world is laid out in front of you, purely for your pleasure.
What to do first?
Do what it is you want to do.
Do what it is you want to do.
Do what it is you want to do.
Go out and experience the things you have always wanted to try. You may love, laugh or cry, but the knowledge that you have taken a chance on your life - that alone is worth any risk.
Be free and fly.
That something tiny and seemingly insignificant can set you free, within yourself.
It's an incredible thing, to feel free, and not something that everyone experiences within their lifetime.
It is a state of mind, rather than a physical thing. It is a feeling of relief, of a weight being lifted. It's light as a feather...
It is a feeling that you can do anything you want. Be anyone you want, and the whole world is laid out in front of you, purely for your pleasure.
What to do first?
Do what it is you want to do.
Do what it is you want to do.
Do what it is you want to do.
Go out and experience the things you have always wanted to try. You may love, laugh or cry, but the knowledge that you have taken a chance on your life - that alone is worth any risk.
Be free and fly.
Do you subscribe to the view that love is a romantic proposition, full of hearts and flowers, or do you believe (as I am starting to) that in the end, falling in love is another deal we make.
Let's face it, we all have things we want out of a relationship - and if a potential partner doesn't have the qualities we feel are most important to us, we cut our losses and move on, right?
Have you been, or are you , in a relationship where you aren't getting the things you want and need from your partner? Are you trading lack of emotional intimacy for money or prestige?
I have been reading that we are happier in relationships where we are pretty similar to our partner - where one is not superior in any way to the other...And after some thought I would have to agree - we are probably better off being with someone reasonably similar to ourselves...to a degree.
I'm not sure I think that money has so much to do with it, as values, morals and goals in life.I know that when (or if) I enter into another relationship, I want to be with someone who doesn't think I'm too crazy for having the dreams I do, for wanting to live the life I do, and who supports me in being the person that I am.
To do that he would have to be aligned with me on some level yes?
And I would like to be all that to him as well, and to feel that I can morally do that, without feeling out of alignment with myself.
Any thoughts?
Let's face it, we all have things we want out of a relationship - and if a potential partner doesn't have the qualities we feel are most important to us, we cut our losses and move on, right?
Have you been, or are you , in a relationship where you aren't getting the things you want and need from your partner? Are you trading lack of emotional intimacy for money or prestige?
I have been reading that we are happier in relationships where we are pretty similar to our partner - where one is not superior in any way to the other...And after some thought I would have to agree - we are probably better off being with someone reasonably similar to ourselves...to a degree.
I'm not sure I think that money has so much to do with it, as values, morals and goals in life.I know that when (or if) I enter into another relationship, I want to be with someone who doesn't think I'm too crazy for having the dreams I do, for wanting to live the life I do, and who supports me in being the person that I am.
To do that he would have to be aligned with me on some level yes?
And I would like to be all that to him as well, and to feel that I can morally do that, without feeling out of alignment with myself.
Any thoughts?
I guess by now, you've heard the saying that happiness is a choice.
In my experience, the choice is to remember what brings you happiness. Those stolen moments of bliss that make you pause and say "aah."
What tiny things in your everyday enchant you and bring a smile to your face - if you let them?
For me it's about finding the romance in the ordinary.
If I allow it to, the simple act of hanging laundry under cloudless blue skies affords me the most glorious feeling that all is right in my world.
A glimpse of red and white polkadotted anything makes me smile.
Libraries, sun-warmed fruit straight from the tree, cupcakes.
All simple pleasures, and all happiness triggers for me.
Take a few minutes to remember your bliss today.
Bliss. That feeling we all crave.
What is it exactly?
It's pure joy, love and adventure all rolled into one.
It's the feeling you get when you are doing what you love to do. It's when you are so focused on the moment that nothing else can get in. Your thoughts are on the task at hand and nothing else matters to you. You feel calm and happy.
That's bliss.
So, can we get that feeling more than once every now and then? Oh yes! And it isn't too difficult to do either, but it does require that you make a commitment to yourself.
A commitment to look for the joy in your day. A commitment to taking time for yourself to quiet your mind a little. A commitment to being true to who you really are. (You may need to dig a little to find this out - it gets buried very early in life!)
Meditation is a wonderful thing and can be life-changing.
Try taking five minutes to close your eyes and focus on your breathing. In. Out. In. Out.
When your thoughts start clamouring for your attention, acknowledge them and then re-focus on your breath. In and out.
The more you practise, the easier it will become. Like anything. It's so definitely worth it though - for the calm it brings if nothing else. But as you continue, you'll find that you gain more clarity and insight about your life, allowing you to make better decisions for yourself.
When you are making good decisions based on what is best for you, then bliss isn't too far behind. Feel it, appreciate it and love it. It will come back to visit you more often if you do, and you will find that your days are more blissful and beautiful than not.
I wish you your bliss.
Do you ever get the feeling you're in your own way?
As human beings, we spend an awful lot of time trying to control things. Usually things we have no control over, like what someone else thinks of us.
Trying to control others is like trying to control the ocean. Actually it's exactly the same. It's attempting to control things external to you. It doesn't work, yet so many of us insist on expending a whole lot of energy on it.
What anyone else thinks, feels or does, has nothing to do with your reality. This little gem dropped into my inbox yesterday:
"If you could actually stand in someone else's shoes, to hear what they hear, see what they see, and feel what they feel, you would honestly wonder what planet they live on, and be totally blown away by how different their "reality" is from yours.
You'd also never, in a million years, be quick to judge again."
Interesting huh?
To change your life, your reality, doesn't depend on others. To make a difference all you need to do is change your thoughts and perceptions. If you come at things from a point of love, rather than hate. From abundance not lack. From giving, not selfishness. If you can do these things, your outlook will change.
Focus on the good in your life and more of that will come. Focus on the bad and again, more of that will appear.
Stop trying to control that which you have no control over and feel the frustration ebb away. Get out of your own way and feel the flow start to come back into your life.
Most of all have fun with your life - that is what you are here for!
As human beings, we spend an awful lot of time trying to control things. Usually things we have no control over, like what someone else thinks of us.
Trying to control others is like trying to control the ocean. Actually it's exactly the same. It's attempting to control things external to you. It doesn't work, yet so many of us insist on expending a whole lot of energy on it.
What anyone else thinks, feels or does, has nothing to do with your reality. This little gem dropped into my inbox yesterday:
"If you could actually stand in someone else's shoes, to hear what they hear, see what they see, and feel what they feel, you would honestly wonder what planet they live on, and be totally blown away by how different their "reality" is from yours.
You'd also never, in a million years, be quick to judge again."
Interesting huh?
To change your life, your reality, doesn't depend on others. To make a difference all you need to do is change your thoughts and perceptions. If you come at things from a point of love, rather than hate. From abundance not lack. From giving, not selfishness. If you can do these things, your outlook will change.
Focus on the good in your life and more of that will come. Focus on the bad and again, more of that will appear.
Stop trying to control that which you have no control over and feel the frustration ebb away. Get out of your own way and feel the flow start to come back into your life.
Most of all have fun with your life - that is what you are here for!
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