I have been musing about trust recently. Not for any particular reason, just contemplating it and looking at it.

Trust is something incredibly important to me.
It has to be the basis of any relationship I have, whether with a lover, friend or my children.

I need to know that I can trust the people I love to not lie to me, and to do the best they know how within our relationship.

But even more important than trusting others, is the need to trust myself.

For if I don't have faith in myself, how can I possibly have faith in another?
I have to trust myself to do the right thing for the best life.
I have to believe that I'm always doing the right thing for myself.

On the whole I'm pretty honest with myself - I may not shout out my weaknesses to the world, but I'm well aware of them all the same, and trying my best to work with them and turn them into strengths.
If I deny that part of me, I'm saying those character traits are bad, and I don't believe that, they are a part of me, and I'm not bad.
We all have elements of light and dark within our personalities. The trick is to accept the dark, and treat yourself gently and with love.

Trust yourself to know what's best for you - you know yourself better than anyone else on this planet.
Trust yourself to treat everyone you meet with the same care.
Develop a trusting relationship with yourself, so that you can build trust in your dealings with others. If you trust yourself and listen, you will be more aware if others are trying to do the wrong thing by you, and you can take steps to distance yourself from that.

Once you start listening to yourself and trusting your own voice, your confidence will soar and all sorts of wonderful things will start to happen.
Trust me.

4 Friends say...:

Duane said...

Hey Flossy!

Trust must be earned it is not something to give lightly and when given, it is given wholeheartedly with few conditions


Suzie said...

Hi Duane,

I think trust is something that grows over time, but you have to be open to it in the first instance.

Thanks for the comment!

Jennifer Paganelli said...

Getting to know ones self is a process and so is trust. Really beautifully written if I'm feeling a bit dishonest I always say to myself do the next right thing and the truth is revealed..

JJ Jalopy said...

Oooh... this is interesting.

I like the way you say that you tru the people you love "not to lie to me, and to do the best they know how."

And I think that's key to the whole discussion.

Often when we feel hurt by someone, they are actually doing the best they know how.

Is that a breach of trust? Probably not. But oftentimes we choose to interpret it as such.

It appears we can only trust another to the degree we trust ourselves.